“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” ― Oscar Wilde

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Cerebal Palsy and Shoes..


The most frustrating thing in the world to me about having Cerebral Palsy is the fact that I can’t wear the adorable shoes that I want to. I can’t wear flip flops, or high heels…because my balance SUCKS. 

It’s so frustrating!! 

But, I tried on a pair of cowboy boots and I loved them! So, I’ll be buying a pair soon. Woo-hoo!!

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I don’t exactly pass as able-bodied. Most people know something is “off” as soon as I stand up (as one college professor not-so-gracefully put it, “I looked at you and went ‘hmmm’”). But sitting down, almost no one can tell, so I inhabit a middle space that confuses people all across the ability spectrum. People with CP have literally asked where mine is, as if it can be located. It’s true that I lack many of CP’s obvious markers, and aside from stairs without handrails and clawfoot bathtubs (seriously, why?), I don’t have to battle many physical barriers. But literally walking the line between able-bodied and not has given me an up close look at how people think about disabilities, and I will say this: if you’re not able-bodied, it’s really hard to get people to take you seriously.

They will tell you how brave and inspirational you are, for sure (which, of course, is more about them than you). They’ll tell you God loves you extra. Bonus points if they are also crying. But they’re uncomfortable, on some level, with you making your own choices — especially if those choices might have painful outcomes. Everyone around you will manicure your life so that you don’t have to experience difficulty. Things will happen around you rather than to you. Risk taking isn’t presented as an option. There are a couple different assumptions at work here: first, that you’ve already been through so much that you deserve the gold star of a decision-free life, and second, that you are a child in need of constant protection. That becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy: when everyone takes care of you, it’s damn near impossible to grow up.

Carrie, a girl I wish I knew in person, via Autostraddle. I identify with this in ways I can’t put into words. (x)

(Source: nevercertain)